Personal Journal 9.1, 9.3, & 9.4

9.1

1. I feel hurt when you interrupt me while I am talking because I think that you do not listen to what I have to say.

2. I feel upset when you criticize because I think that you are just putting others down.

3. I feel irritated when you are late because this seems to occur often.

4. I feel overworked because I do not get assistance with the housework from you.

5. I feel annoyed because you are acting babyish.


9.3

Ashley: omnivor, waitress, christian, dog lover

1. I am an omnivor, but I do not eat raw meat or salad.

2. I am a waitress, but I am not rude.

3. I am a christian, but I am not against others that are a different religion.

4. I am a dog lover, but I do not hate cats.


9.4

1. Work
    Cause: People at my previous job were not pulling their weight.
    How I Handled It: I nicely told my fellow employees how I felt and how we could solve the issue.

2. School
    Cause: Someone hit my car door with their car door.
    How I Handled It: I told the offender what happened and asked if there was any damage if they woul pay to fix my car.

3. Home
    Cause: My boyfriend not picking up after himself.
    How I Handled It: I asked him to help me more with the housework.

I am proud of how I handled these situations. I stayed calm and positive which helped get the situation resolved.

Personal Journal 8.1,8.3,8.4

8.1

Urgent/Important:Grocery shopping, do laundry, drop off the dry cleaning, study for Friday's exam, fix a flat tire on my car, pay an overdue credit card bill

Not Urgent/Important:File old papers and bills, start looking for a summer job, return a call from my best friend

Urgent/Not Important:

Not Urgent/Not Important:See a movie

8.3

To me money is important because let's face it, it makes the world go around because everything depends on money.

My financial goals are to be stable by having money in savings, no credit cards, bills always paid on time, never have to borrow money, and have no debt.

If I had one hundred dollars in my wallet at the moment I would buy Christmas gifts, but usually I would try my best not to spend it on anything except for bills or emergencies and put the left over in savings.

When I think about paying bills I feel broke already.

One thing I do not understand about money is why it takes so much of it to have or do anything.

To me planning for retirement is important, but I do not have the means to worry about that right now.

I worry about having enough money for bills and emergencies.

Money helps me enjoy my spare time being young.

I do not need money to enjoy daily life.

8.4

1. Purchase: clothes
    I made the purchase because I wanted a new outfit.
    I wish I hadn't because I could have saved the money for something more important.

2. Purchase: House decorations
    I made the purchase because I wanted my house to look nicer.
    I wish I hadn't because I could have just been patient and asked for those things for Christmas.

3. Purchase: CD's
    I made the purchase because I wanted to have my favorite songs all the time.
    I wish I hadn't because I could have just enjoyed the songs when they came on the radio.

4. Purchase: Random weekend entertainment items
    I made the purchases because I wanted to have fun on my weekends
    I wish I hadn't because I could have saved the money and still had a fun weekend.
   

Personal Journal 7.1

1. If I work hard on my resume I will have a lot more interview opportunities.

2. I am gathering references so I will have a good support system for my hiring process.

3. I'm applying for lots of jobs because I will know I gave myself the best chance for getting a job.

4. I need to practice interview techniques so I will be even more confident.

5. I have to follow up on the interview so I will have a good chance of getting the job I want.

Review & Activities 12

12. My inspirational quote which is a in my daily ctually more of a passage from the bible that I like to remember in my daily life is 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends."

Personal Journal 5.1 & 5.3

5.1

    Today I am grateful for:
          1. My friends and family
          2. My job and school
          3. My health and happiness

    Three good things that happened to me today:
          1. I woke up to another beautiful day
          2. I was surrounded by family
          3. I accomplished work plans

    Three good things I have to look forward to in the future:
          1. Getting my college degree
          2. Finding the job of my dreams
          3. Continuing my future with my fiance

5.3

    Irrational Belief: I must succeed at everything.
    Rational Belief: I will do my best to succeed at many things I like.

    Irrational Belief: I must be loved by everyone.
    Rational Belief: The only people I will be worried about are my friends and family.

    Irrational Belief: I should never make mistakes.
    Rational Belief: It is okay to make mistakes sometimes.

    Irrational Belief: I can't do anything about my feelings.
    Rational Belief: I can think more positively to achieve good feelings.
   

Personal Journal 4.2

Problem: I have job difficulties. I want a good full-time job, but I need to finish school first which means low paying jobs, not full-time work, and issues with fellow workers and bosses because of maturity levels and so on.

When I avoid: Irritable, Impatient, and Dissatisfied

When I cope: Accomplished, Satisfied, and Rational

An action I could take today to cope with my issue is to try and find a good paying job that relates to the field I am going to be going into after college.

Personal Journal 6.2 & 6.4

Activity 6.2

          Impulse: Road Rage
               1. When I give into this impulse it relieves emotions like anger and stress.
               2. The negative consequences of this however could lead to me getting into an altercation with someone or getting into an accident.
               3. The positive consequences do not outweigh the negative because I need to learn to control my emotions and be aware of the danger of road rage.

Activity 6.4

          Action:
               Option 1:Stay at my second job
               Option 2: Leave my second job all together

               Goal: Staying would keep me in touch with people and keep my discount
               Goal: Leaving would allow me to make more money and find a better job

                Value: I value my relationships with my coworkers.
                 Value: I value stability.
        
           Action:
                Option 1: Go ahead and finish school as fast as I can
                Option 2: Slow down so I can work more

                 Goal: This would contradict me graduating in summer 2013
                 Goal:I may not have time for other things like I do now such as school

                  Value: Finishing school would not contradict any of my values
                   Value: Slowing down would contradict my value of persistence
              

Third Term Paper Blog Entry: Your Imago

The techniques in the book are working very well for me because at first applying something new is hard to pursue smoothly and become a habit, but soon the action becomes natural because it is a better way of conducting our relationship. As far as changes I have made are trying to become a more patient and understanding partner. I have been listening more and talking less while also putting my words into actions. For example, when me and my boyfriend get into a disagreement my usual response is to disregard everything being said therefore the issue does not get resolved and repeats itself in the future. However, recently in a disagreement I will give eye contact and listen to his wants and needs and in return apply an action to show I did listen and I do care which solves the issue from ever reoccurring. Also, we do not have any children yet, but we have two dogs that we consider our kids and at times we disagree on how to punish and reward them. However, now if there is a disagreement on the right action we will sit down and discuss our opinions and find a happy medium which resolves the issue with the dogs without making a second issue of us arguing. My progress has been better than expected.I would say our only set back has been not having a lot of time to practice new methods, but I can tell what we have tried together has worked and stuck with us. I would like to say that the experience so far has been easy, however when it comes to molding a relationship and changing how a person thinks and reacts is difficult and takes time and practice.

Second Term Paper Blog Entry: Childhood Wounds

I think the ideas presented in the book I chose are very relevant to everyone and all of life's issues. The success I expect to attain is a better self as well as becoming a better relationship partner. Some of the changes that will be necessary is for some of the issues that me and my partner have dealt with are communication and trust to be resolved to attain a more fulfilling relationship. Thus far the steps I have taken are to try daily to have more open and honest conversation. So far I have experienced any difficulties, but if some were to arise I suspect it would the honesty to lead to an argument. If this happens I plan to handle it by staying calm and trying to talk it out to defuse the situation.

Personal Journal 3.3

To reduce the stress caused by work I will stay busy to keep my mind off of negativity.

To reduce stress caused by school I will set aside specific times for each class to help stay organized and punctual.

To reduce the stress caused by relationships I will stay calm and be polite and honest when communicating an issue so to achieve the best and positive results.

Personal Journal 2.1, 2.2, 2.3

Ashley Sampson

 

Chapter Two

 

Personal Journal 2.1

1.       The person who knows me best is my boyfriend.

2.       One of my dreams in life is to work at the V.A.

3.       Three adjectives that describe me well are outgoing, intelligent, and organized.

4.       What I like most about myself is my ability to always stay true to who I am.

5.       What I like least about myself is that I am very indecisive.

6.       I am good at cleaning.

7.       I am not very good at math.

8.       I enjoy shopping.

9.       I do not enjoy video games.

10.   Three careers that interest me are a clinical psychologist, profiler, and CSI.

11.   My purpose in life is to bring happiness to myself and others.

Personal Journal 2.2

1.       I have always wanted to have my own animal rescue.

2.       If I were to receive an award, I would want it to be for helping others.

3.       The things that make life worth living are the little things such as a beautiful day, surprises, and happiness.

4.       The best thing that could possibly happen to me is to be able to live comfortably forever.

5.       If I were nearing the end of my life, I would regret not having the ability to take back anything negative that happened because of myself.

 

Personal Journal 2.3

1.       The activities that make me feel energized and alive are dancing, singing, and sports.

2.       If I was at a library, bookstore, or newsstand the subjects I would enjoy browsing are self-help, romance, mysteries, and cooking.

3.       The courses or subjects I have enjoyed the most in school have been psychology and criminal justice.

4.       The subject I could talk about endlessly is psychology.

5.       As a child I was enthusiastic about nature.

 

Personal Journal 1.3

1. I have high intellectual ability. 8
2. I am good at sports. 6
3. I am creative. 9
4. I have good relationships with my close friends. 10
5. I have a good sense of humor. 9
6. I am popular with others. 8
7. I am competent on the job. 9
8. I am competent at school. 9
9. I am romantically appealing to others. 9
10. I am physically attractive. 9
11. I am a moral person. 10
12. I have a good relationship with my parents. 10

I had the highest ratings in having good relationships with close friends, being a moral person, and having a good relationship with my parents.

I am proud to say that this shows I am a good person on the inside. I value those around me and myself.

It is possible I am being over critical of myself, but it is because I do not know what others would consider me to be on these levels. For example, I am a great people person and have many good friendships, but I gave myself a 8 with being popular with others because I know over the years I have had a few people that did not care for me for some reason.

          The topic I chose is Relationship Adjustments. I chose this topic because I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over seven years and we plan to be together forever so before we get married we are always taking the opportunity to better our relationship and by choosing a book from this topic I can continue to improve this huge aspect of my life. The title of the book I chose is: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix. My alternative topics would have been Financial Adjustments, which was my second choice, and Mental Adjustments, which was my third choice. I have already learned many interesting facts from just the first chapter in my book, so I expect the book to have many good changes on my life. I expect my adjusted life to be myself with a better outlook on relationships in general, especially with the one between me and my boyfriend. I am hoping after reading this book it will help me to make progress into a deeper relationship with my boyfriend. Mostly, I will have turned into a smarter, happier, more mature person. I am sure I will have this book on my book shelf for years to come and suggest it to other couples.