Third Term Paper Blog Entry: Your Imago

The techniques in the book are working very well for me because at first applying something new is hard to pursue smoothly and become a habit, but soon the action becomes natural because it is a better way of conducting our relationship. As far as changes I have made are trying to become a more patient and understanding partner. I have been listening more and talking less while also putting my words into actions. For example, when me and my boyfriend get into a disagreement my usual response is to disregard everything being said therefore the issue does not get resolved and repeats itself in the future. However, recently in a disagreement I will give eye contact and listen to his wants and needs and in return apply an action to show I did listen and I do care which solves the issue from ever reoccurring. Also, we do not have any children yet, but we have two dogs that we consider our kids and at times we disagree on how to punish and reward them. However, now if there is a disagreement on the right action we will sit down and discuss our opinions and find a happy medium which resolves the issue with the dogs without making a second issue of us arguing. My progress has been better than expected.I would say our only set back has been not having a lot of time to practice new methods, but I can tell what we have tried together has worked and stuck with us. I would like to say that the experience so far has been easy, however when it comes to molding a relationship and changing how a person thinks and reacts is difficult and takes time and practice.